HOW I PLAN TO FOCUS IN 2020

The last 3-months of 2019 flew by and I can’t believe it’s already 2020. 2019 was by far the best year of my life although it started off sad. I started the year grieving over a friend breakup and working at a company that was going out of business. Luckily things started turning around in April and 2019 ended up being the best and happiest year of my life. From being happily married, having incredibly smart, funny and supportive friends, growing closer with my family, getting a new job at my top choice company, and topping it off with a house and a dog… I am incredibly thankful for 2019.

Every year I like to set goals on what I want to accomplish. I honestly haven’t had much time to think about 2020 until now as I’m writing this post. What I know is that I want 2020 to be focused on more quality instead of quantity. I did A LOT in 2019 and often put a lot on my plate. This covers everything from going to events, taking on a lot at work, hosting a bunch of parties, etc. Although I don’t get stressed easily, I found myself overwhelmed and putting a lot of pressure on myself for no reason. I’m hoping 2020 will be the year where I learn to be more content, know when to ask for help, and to stop adding unnecessary pressure on myself. Keep reading to read how.

3 WAYS I PLAN TO FOCUS THIS YEAR:

1. Be more content: I’ve always felt pressure to be very successful and 2019 was the year I realized it’s not all about success. Everyone defines success differently, but I grew up associating success with money. I realized that after you make a certain amount of money, everything after that is extra. What’s more important is your health, good relationships, and having money as a means to do what makes you happy. My mindset at work has always been to be an overachiever to quickly move up. I’m 32 and still have a LOT of years on my career and know that with time I will continue moving up. My next career goal is to be a Director and I know with time, I’ll get there. For now, I need to learn to be content and to not always chase the next best thing right away.
2. Learn to ask for help: I’m really independent which has it’s pros and cons. The pro is that it enables me to be very productive but the con is that I’m often strapped thin and put a lot on my plate. With work, now the puppy, setting time for Josh and friends, plus blogging I’ve realized I can’t do it all. I’ve been considering hiring an intern for my blog/Instagram (DM me if you’re interested) but have been shying away from it since I keep thinking, “I can do it myself”. This is the year I plan to be real with myself when I’m feeling overwhelmed or stressed and to not shy away from asking for help when needed.
3. Say “no” more: I don’t get FOMO anymore (thank goodness haha), but I often feel a need to do things I don’t want to since I don’t want to let other people down. This was a huge problem in 2018 as it led me to make a lot of unwanted “yes’s”, making me build resentment. In the end, I had no-one to blame except myself and I realized that I need to set better boundaries for myself. So this year I plan to say “no” more and to better prioritize everything in my life. Some examples include going to fewer events and only going to ones that bring me real joy, turning down collaborations that don’t benefit you or me, and learning how to spend my time on fewer but more important things.

I’m not sure how 2020 will look for me, but I’m hoping it’ll bring a lot of peace, happiness, and quality opportunities in my life. Happy New Years and thank you for reading this long post!